Heavy heart/strong soul

Good morning bloggers,

Here I am again burning the midnight oil. After spending some time with someone & him making me realize some of my flaws I felt inspired to write this entry.

Every strong woman needs someone to take the lead for a minute, so she can take a breather, recollect herself & recharge. I, unfortunately don't have that luxury in my life, but I do take frequent vacations by myself to compensate for that; these brief vacations allow me to release, recharge & refresh. There are days that I wish I could just runaway from it all, but then I have people, like my grand kids, kids & my close friends whom remind me that I am loved & very much needed!

I have no regrets & now know more than ever that everything that I've been through was meant to be. My experiences have taught me very valuable lessons, they have humbled me, prepared me & most importantly serve as a constant reminder that life is a constant evolution.

I have been through allot in my 45 years of living & I don't regret anything. I have loved the wrong people & in return I have learned that there are no garauntees. The only thing that is garaunteed in this life is that the only person you can count on is yourself. The way you carry yourself around others defines your character, I have forgiven & moved on without resentment. And even though my heart is heavy, my soul has become stronger. With every situation comes experience & those experiences allow you to make better decisions. Loss of loved ones make you appreciate those you love & love you. Bad experiences teach you lessons, good experiences create happy memories. So, you see, take nothing for granted, don't expect anything from anybody but yourself & never judge others because you never know what they have been through.

But do treat others with respect, be kind, open your hearts & your minds to all possibilities. Have faith, smile often, laugh frequently- trust me it's contagious! Take deep breaths, pause, learn how to let go of the bad & create good! Trust me you will be much happier & @ peace!

Men of hollow words

Good morning bloggers,

So most of my close friends know that I've been dating online. And it has become fun & I have met some interesting men. But, most of these men share a common theme, that theme being, men of hollow words! They claim allot verbally but lack the action that is necessary! It has become frustrating & I do miss the traditional way of meeting men, in person, where you can read their body language & their facial expressions. I consider myself to be a good judge of character & pride myself on reading people, but with this new age dating it has made it hard to gage when these boys are lying.

 I can't say that this theme applies to all the men I have met, but it does apply to most. I'm not sure where they get the idea or notion that lying is acceptable! Were they not taught that the truth is always revealed with time! I raised 2 boys & I have taught them to always be honest, & it's better to hurt people with the truth then making them happy with lies, because that happiness is temporary, the truth always surfaces & shatters your credibility. I have taught all my kids that your word is your bond, if your words don't stand for nothing you have no value!

It has been my experience that when people lie it's because they don't value you or how they make you feel. To me that's a form of disrespect. Unfortunately, I have experienced being lied to, & it has tainted me in ways that I may not recover from. I try to maintain my faith & proceed cautiously!

To all who read this entry: when you lie, you only hurt your own character & people don't take you seriously!

Women of substance vs. New breed of women

Good morning bloggers,

I know it's been a while, what can I tell you? I have been working very hard. I have made some decisions that will impact my life tremendously. I have been contemplating doing a tour in Dubai, the shortest tour that exists is 3 years. I've been researching it & the numbers make sense, but the time away from my family is delaying my decision. Anyway, that topic is for another entry.

As for my title, women of substance vs. new breed of women, it has come to my attention
 that there exists women that have certain qualities. Those qualities include but are not limited to: integrity, honesty, loyalty, consistency, patience, intelligence, ethics, strength, acceptance, & lord knows a plethora of other qualities that I'm failing to mention. I guess I'm mentioning this because I have allot friends that possess all these qualities & when we get together & discuss my pathetic, non-existent love life, it comes up as a topic. Most of my close friends are successful women in their own right & continue to be successful in their relationships. And although it does require energy & determination to maintain those relationships, it is very possible. When I was married I was able to maintain & didn't mind doing it. I guess when you love somebody it doesn't feel like work or expended energy.

Anyway, back to my title, it seems like, to me, that these qualities are not desired by most men. It has been my experience that men rather have women who want to use them for money, titles or other reasons that I will never understand. This observation has tainted my dating ventures, I have come to the realization that what I seek in a relationship is not what most men seek in a relationship.

Women I know work hard, are loyal, intelligent, independent and consistent! These qualities are very hard to find in a man. And although I believe that women who possess these qualities are a new breed, that belief is wrong. Looking back, these qualities were always around me, & learned from my mom, grandma & other women in my family. So you see,  the women of substance in my life have graced me with these qualities. This woman of substance has evolved with time, I have become more confidant in my ability to do all things. I have become more free with my time, more open minded, & I have learned to take more chances & have faith in myself & my decisions. Being able to do things on my own has given me a level of confidence that is undeniable. I just hope that I pass on these qualities to my daughters & sons & grandchildren.

P.S. I'm currently having technical difficulties & am unable to insert pictures to my entries, so please be patient with me.