Good afternoon bloggers,
Yes I know it has been a long time since I posted an entry! But, I have a legitimate excuse, or should I say excuses....!? I have been very busy with family work, & now grad school, that’s right you read right, GRAD school!
Those of you who know me well , know that I have been wanting to go to school to become a sex therapist, yes a sex therapist. Ya’ll know damn well why, if not here is why: As ya’ll already know I have always aspired to be the next Dr. Ruth with a Latina & comedic take on sexual situations. But having lost my only brother to the AIDS epidemics has left me with the desire to serve those in the LGTBQ community. When my brother was alive and fell sick, I became his caregiver. I would take him to all his doctors appointments and made sure he took his meds on time and took him to all his therapies. While waiting for him in the waiting room I learned that within the LGTBQ community the incidents of suicide were very high. It was @ this time that I felt the desire to want to help this community. Having more family members within this community fed my desire even more. I felt like I wanted to do more in a professional capacity.
As my life move forward and I eventually got married & divorced my desires grew to include wanting to help couples and individuals who struggle with intimate relationships. It is through therapy and self examination that I continue to discover that self care & self love helps with intimate relationships. We all have our own experiences and how we interpret and process these experiences. But learning how to resolve these conflicts may sometimes require help. I’ve learned this firsthand and I continue to work on myself so I can offer a better version for myself and those I love and that includes the people I render services too.
Those who work with me know that I am very passionate about my patients and take allot of pride in my work ethic. But, unfortunately my 16 years of working the night shift has begun to take a toll on me physically. I have noticed that it takes me a whole day to recover from working 2 nights consecutively! I have also noticed that I am starting to tank @ 3 am while @ work & that has recently started happening. I’m usually so full of energy during my 12-13 hour shifts. I have been exercising to combat my tiredness but to no avail! I’m reluctant to admit that I now am under the care of 3 doctors: cardiologist, pulmonologist, and most recently a gastroenterologist! I’ve been told by all 3 that I have to make it a priority to lose 10 pounds! Easily said than done.
And I share this to urge you to practice self-care. We are the only ones who know how to take care of ourselves the best, because we know what we need, want, & deserve. It can start by just asking time to spend by yourself, take a brisk walk, enjoy what nature has to offer. Do something that brings you calm, for me its cooking and spending quality time with my kids & grandkids. Yes, it’s that damn simple! I also get a sense of zen when I’m cooking and eating with my family. Surround yourself with positive people and stay positive. We all are living in stressful times, but it behooves you to focus on all your blessings and stop comparing yourself to others. We all have our own journey’s to take and those journeys are as unique as we are! Have faith that things will work out for the best & never take anybody for granted.
So allow me to share with you what brings me peace & calm into my life:
